Metro areas, different state from main city

While I will use the US as a model here, this thread applies for jurisdictions around the world.

IS METROPOLITAN LIFE DIFFERENT IN ANY PRECEIVABLE WAY WHEN YOU LIVE IN ANOTHER STATE THAN THE METRO'S CORE CITY?

Do people feel like the "step child" of the metro under these circumstances? Are they less empowered? Do they feel less part of the whole? Do people in the metro area make a major decision of moving there because it is out-of-state? How about transit: it is affected? Media...are the same newspapers read? Loyalty/identification to state (is it weaker in these regions than in others)?

I'm talking about places like the following:

NH: Boston
CT: NYC
NJ: NYC
NJ: Phila
Ont: Buf (special case)
MD: DC (special case)
VA: DC (special case)
IN: Cinci
IN: Chgo
IN: L'ville
Ont: Detroit (special case)
WI: Chgo
WI: Mpls
IL: StL
AR: Memphis
KS: KCMO
WA: Portland
Mex: SD (special case)>